Pregnancy Number 3
We found out we were expecting whilst on Holiday in America. We were there for 3 weeks and on week 2 I started feeling sick. I didn't think I could actually be pregnant as we hadn't been trying long and I was hoping that sickness would at least hold off until after the holiday! But it didn't. Disney Land on my sons 4th birthday feeling absolutely dog rough really isn't a good memory for me. In fact I cant even think about the Chilli they do in basically a whole loaf of bread what is shaped like Mickey Mouse. (feeling sick now!!!) After coming home it felt like a lifetime waiting for our 12 week scan to roll around, but finally it came and we were so excited yet nervous to see our baby on a screen!
Throughout my pregnancy doctors had suggested that our baby may have some sort of chromosome defect due to a cystic hygroma they had found on the back of her neck going down to her back at our 12 week scan. It was one of the scariest moments at 12 weeks having a midwife say to us "Are both of your other children healthy?" Your heart quickly sinks and you wonder why someone would say such a thing when you have just seen a little heart beating on the screen.
After our 12 week scans we usually announce the news to our family and friends, yet we had a doctor come in the room and tell us we could abort our baby as we were so young we would be sure to have a perfect pregnancy if we tried again. It made us feel sick. I know that doctors have to say these things to you and prepare you for what could be but getting rid of a child, problems or no problems isn't acceptable in my eyes. Everyone deserves a chance at life.
So rather than excitedly announcing our happy news we found ourselves only telling the very closest people to us. We had to go for scans every 2 weeks for about 3 months. Each time we would be told that we had the option to abort if we so wished. Jake definitely made it clear that was not an option for us! We were also offered screening tests which would be able to inform us if our baby did have any defects or not. Unless we were willing to pay then all of the screening's had risks for our baby. We knew that whatever happened whether she be ill or have any problems she was ours and it wouldn't make any difference to us so we chose not to have any. I think screening tests are worth doing for different people in different situations but we were set in our ways and that was the best thing for us.
This pregnancy was definitely a rough ride for me. I realised I am a lot stronger than I thought I was and I also realised my family have a lot of people who care about us. One of the main things what got me through every day was knowing how lucky I was to be carrying a child inside me. My heart breaks for women who don't get the chance to experience it and I knew I was lucky just being able to have my baby grow inside me no matter what was going to happen in the end.
Throughout my pregnancy doctors had suggested that our baby may have some sort of chromosome defect due to a cystic hygroma they had found on the back of her neck going down to her back at our 12 week scan. It was one of the scariest moments at 12 weeks having a midwife say to us "Are both of your other children healthy?" Your heart quickly sinks and you wonder why someone would say such a thing when you have just seen a little heart beating on the screen.
After our 12 week scans we usually announce the news to our family and friends, yet we had a doctor come in the room and tell us we could abort our baby as we were so young we would be sure to have a perfect pregnancy if we tried again. It made us feel sick. I know that doctors have to say these things to you and prepare you for what could be but getting rid of a child, problems or no problems isn't acceptable in my eyes. Everyone deserves a chance at life.
So rather than excitedly announcing our happy news we found ourselves only telling the very closest people to us. We had to go for scans every 2 weeks for about 3 months. Each time we would be told that we had the option to abort if we so wished. Jake definitely made it clear that was not an option for us! We were also offered screening tests which would be able to inform us if our baby did have any defects or not. Unless we were willing to pay then all of the screening's had risks for our baby. We knew that whatever happened whether she be ill or have any problems she was ours and it wouldn't make any difference to us so we chose not to have any. I think screening tests are worth doing for different people in different situations but we were set in our ways and that was the best thing for us.
This pregnancy was definitely a rough ride for me. I realised I am a lot stronger than I thought I was and I also realised my family have a lot of people who care about us. One of the main things what got me through every day was knowing how lucky I was to be carrying a child inside me. My heart breaks for women who don't get the chance to experience it and I knew I was lucky just being able to have my baby grow inside me no matter what was going to happen in the end.
Around 29 weeks pregnant.
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